These past few months have been SUPER busy in the Smith house!
Between sickness (yuck!), attempting potty training (ugh!), growing a new Smith (YAY!), and life in general, we have been non-stop!
Sickness is a serious problem in our home! With two in daycare, and parents who are in the germiest professions (nurse and teacher), sometimes it feels like we are CONSTANTLY under attack! Currently, Sweet Baby Girl is going to her second doctors appointment in two weeks! We are praying this is not RSV making a comeback. A couple of months ago, I first heard about Young Living Oils. While extremely skeptical, I did a little research. The more I researched, the more I wanted to know. Several of our church friends and family have been using them with lots of success. Our kit came in Tuesday, and already it has been put to use! I will update about how the oils are affecting and helping our family 🙂
Potty training has got to be my LEAST favorite thing about having a toddler. It’s a good thing he is super cute! Our biggest problem is overcoming a very strong will. So many times when I suggest that we go potty, I hear “I’M FINE!” Of course, that is usually followed by an accident. We will NOT give up though. I refuse to have three kids in diapers!
Maybe you haven’t heard our latest news…which means you don’t follow us on IG or Facebook.
We are adding one more to our family! Brayden Lane is on his way! He is due June 16, 2014. We are so stinkin’ excited. We had an ultrasound this past Monday, and saw him for the first time (well the first time that we could actually tell he was a baby). The little stinker was rolling and jumping around. He also was sucking his thumb, just like Ry and Sweet Baby Girl!
Since we last posted, so many things have happened on our journey with our first placement. I have written this post so many times. Each time I fail to really find the words to describe how God has moved in our lives and this story.
We can’t share too many details about the case, but we can share that right before her placement was about to change (like the night before), sweet baby girl’s mom decided that we were a better place for her. That was totally a God thing! The mom made sacrifices for her daughter to stay with us, and for that we are grateful. We are so blessed to be a part of this story. We pray that it is one of healing and reunification. The road may be long, but we know that God can do anything!
The other day, I had the pleasure of running into one of our “teachers” of our fostering class. She actually was the same person that taught my aunt Tam’s fostering class (which is how our Heath came to our family!) She asked me if we were coparenting.
They taught us in our classes about this relatively new concept. When you coparent, you not only help the child heal, you also help the parent. It starts by just communicating with the parent. Simple notes sent to visitation. Then it can lead to visits where you supervise and planning things with the parent outside of scheduled visits.
Initially I was totally against it. I wanted nothing to do with the biological parents. In my mind, my job was to take care of the kid, not the parents.
God definitely has worked on my heart. Not only do I communicate with the mom, I also took her to get sweet baby girls ears pierced. That is definitely not something I ever expected to do.
As I write this post, sweet baby girl has been in the hospital for three days. She has RSV and won’t be leaving for a few more days, at the earliest. Please pray that she recovers quickly. They also have found some issues that will require us to go to a specialist when we leave.
Please also pray for Ry, as we are torn between needing to be there for her, and missing him.
This business of loving and raising a child as your own, while constantly reminding yourself that they in fact are NOT you own…..well it’s tricky.
When I got the call that we would be getting a sweet baby girl, one of the questions I asked was “Are there any relative caregivers in play?” We had learned through our training, that the state’s ultimate goal is to place a child with a relative, as it is considered the “least restrictive enviroment.” The case worker told me that there was a non-relative caregiver that had been named, but the chances of them passing screening looked slim.
As the weeks went on, the chances increased. Fingerprints were taken, a home study was done, and yesterday Continue reading
So much has happened in our little family’s life since December. Our anniversary, birthdays, family vacations, and more! We have been very busy!
Perhaps the biggest news is that we are now licensed foster parents. In fact, as I type this, our first placement is in her way to our house.
So far, our foster parent journey has consisted of a whole lot of waiting. Waiting for orientation, waiting for classes to start, waiting on the home inspection, waiting on our home study to be completed, waiting on our license, waiting for our first placement call, and now, waiting on our first placement. Continue reading